"Go easy on yourself. Whatever you do today, let it be enough. And NEVER believe the negative things you tell yourself when you are sad and alone."
Suicide is Preventable
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Pain Isn't Always Obvious. Reach out to someone you are concerned about, if you observe one or more of these warning signs, especially if the behavior is new, has increased or seems related to a painful event, loss or change.
Warning signs to look for:
* Talking about wanting to die or suicide
* Looking for a way to kill themselves
* Talking or writing about death, dying or suicide
* Expressing no reason for living or no sense of purpose
* Rage, seeking revenge
* Recklessness or risky behavior, seemingly without thinking
* Expressions of feeling trapped like there is no way out
* Feeling hopeless, depressed
* Drug or alcohol use
* Withdrawal from friends, family, and society
* Anxiety, agitation, lack of sleep or oversleeping
* Dramatic mood changes
* Giving away possessions
* Putting affairs in order
* Uncontrolled anger
MYTH: Talking about suicide will lead to, and encourage, suicide.
FACT: Talking about suicide reduces stigma, and allows individuals to seek help, share experiences, and re-think.
MYTH: People who talk about suicide are just trying to get attention.
FACT: People who take their own lives usually talk about it first. They may be reaching out for help so always take talk about suicide seriously.
MYTH: Suicide happens without warning.
FACT: Suicidal people often use words or actions to indicate that they are thinking about suicide.
MYTH: After crises, improvement means that the suicide risks are over.
FACT: Many suicides occur in a “period of improvement” when the person has the energy and will turn despairing thoughts into action
How to Help
Listen to Someone Without Judgment
1. Open the space to listen. Just listen
The reason behind this is that when we're feeling particularly down, we just want to vent. We just want to let it out. And that's precisely the first thing our loved ones might need from us: to just listen. Nothing more, nothing less. Just listen.
2. Practice empathy and name the feeling.
After we've listened, a few empathetic responses we can use include:
•"I'm so sorry you're going through this."
•"This must be so hard for you."
•"You must feel really frustrated with all of this.“
These simple empathetic responses can help the person feel that their emotions are validated. This, consequently, helps them feel seen, heard, valued, supported and less alone.
3. Reassure them how important and meaningful they are to you.
When someone is going through a hard time, they might start to lose their confidence
Reassuring someone how important and meaningful they are, can be an important piece towards helping someone heal. A simple text message or a phone call that reinforces their value and place in your life can make a huge difference.
4. Touch base with them often.
I cannot stress this one enough, it's important to make an effort. Touching base doesn't have to be awkward. It can start off with sharing a song, movie, quote, or image that reminds you of them, and then slowly transforming the conversation into asking them how they've been and exploring their feelings.
Doing this often is important because it sends a message that says: "I see you, and I'm here for you."
5. Be a safe space for someone else.
•"This must be tough for you."
•"Your feelings are valid."
•"I would feel the same way if it happened to me."
When we take away judgment, shame, or guilt from the narrative, we can openly navigate through all the feelings, and embrace emotionally healthier relationships–both with ourselves, as well as with others.
If you are concerned about someone, reach out and ask:
" Are you thinking about suicide?"
If you think the person is suicidal, take it seriously. Don't leave them alone.
Call us at (951) 471 – 4713 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 at any time for assistance or call 911 for life-threatening emergencies.
2017 Youth Behavioral Risk Factor Surveillance System show that in the past year 17.2% of high school students seriously considered attempting suicide and 7.4% attempted suicide. (AMR)
1 out of every 9 students (10.9%) has made a suicide plan (CDC).
Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US for all ages (CDC).
Every day, approximately 123 Americans die by suicide (CDC).
There is one death by suicide in the US every 12 minutes (CDC).
Depression affects 20-25% of Americans ages 18+ in a given year (CDC).
Suicide takes the lives of over 44,965 Americans every year (CDC).
Half of all Americans experiencing an episode of major depression receive treatment (NAMI).
An estimated quarter-million people each year become suicide survivors (AAS).
There is one suicide completed for every estimated 25 suicide attempts (CDC).
There is one suicide for every estimated four suicide attempts in the elderly (CDC).
Identifying Your Safety People
Safety People are people who are friendly and supportive
•They don’t judge you
•They don’t hold your past mistakes against you
•They don’t verbally, or physically abuse you
•They do not ignore you
•Are kind to you
•They listen to you
•They make time for you
•They offer support, and mentor and guide you
Where do I find safety people?
•Most family, friends, teammates
•School: Teachers, Psychologists, Counselors, and Administrators
•Volunteer community groups
•Agencies & Healthcare Professionals
Who To Call If I Need Help
CALL 911 FOR LIFE-THREATENING EMERGENCIES
Central Point Behavioral Health Center
24/7 (951) 471 – 4713
Know the Signs
National Child Abuse Hotline
24/7 (800) 422-4459
National Substance Abuse Helpline
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 24/7 1-800-273-8255
The Trevor Project
24/7 (866) 488 - 7386
CA Mental Health Service Authority